Att vara pappa i homofamiljer - berättelser om barn, mammor och familjeliv
2006 (Swedish)In: Socialvetenskaplig tidskrift, ISSN 1104-1420, Vol. 1, no 1, 67-87 p.Article in journal (Refereed) Published
The aim of this article is to discuss how fatherhood is constructed in twelve gay fathers- stories about the becoming of one-s family. These informants took part in broader study on lesbian and gay families carried out during 2002-2003. In a narrative analysis of how the informants position themselves, both in describing their family and in the interactional setting of the interview, two different ways of talking about themselves as fathers and their place in the family are discerned. One is displayed through the way the informants give preference to the mothers and comply to their will and wishes. The mothers are talked about as both special in terms of their motherhood, and as superior in respect to the care and custody of the children. As fathers they describe themselves as dependant upon the will of the mothers. Being with their children is largely dependant upon the conditions set up by the mothers. Parenthood is defined in terms of gender differences, where the superiority of motherhood is accepted as self-evident. In those moments in the interviews, when a father disagree with the mothers decision or will, any critical utterance is down-played and expressed with great caution. This way of positioning themselves have similarities with heterosexual fathers, who after a divorce, with visiting rights, become dependant upon the mothers will. However, there are also differences, related to the lack of former emotional and sexual relations between the parents. The relations between the gay fathers and lesbian mothers have from the beginning been defined in terms of parenthood, with the conditions about care and custody discussed from the start. However, the other way of positionings display how gay fathers oppose a place in the family dependant upon the decision on the mothers. They claim to be parents on equal terms with the mothers, with not only visiting rights, but shared custody. In their stories their love and need of their children is emphasised, in which parenthood is articulated in terms of meaning of life and existentiell discourse. The mothers decisions are more openly criticised and motherhood is not considered as having a special meaning for the children. This way of positioning oneself as a parent on equal terms with the mothers, have similarities with heterosexual fathers who after a discourse claim shared custody. A discourse of parenthood freed from biological gender is discerned, in which parental qualification is related to relational qualities rather than parents- biological gender.
Place, publisher, year, edition, pages
2006. Vol. 1, no 1, 67-87 p.
homofamilj, heteronormativitet, föräldraskap, genus
Social Sciences Interdisciplinary
IdentifiersURN: urn:nbn:se:liu:diva-29712Local ID: 15105OAI: oai:DiVA.org:liu-29712DiVA: diva2:250529